I'm Nycole and I have ADD. I was not officially diagnosed until 5 years ago at the age of 34 years. The assessment was done from my therapist and doctor together. The news was shocking to me...my relation to ADD was through my little brother who had ADHD and was treated at a early age with Ritalin. I would remember him ALWAYS hugging me and strangers all the time. Doing strange stuff. Was this ME? Was I inappropriate as he was? Have I embarrassed myself, my husband and others surrounding me? This was running through my head as the results were being spoken to me. I wasn't trying to degrade my little brother...I just associated his actions to ALL ADD people. I left the office ashamed. I cried and felt completely lame. BUT,also renewed. Answers were being solved and I knew now what it was that was affecting me. I just need to fix it. My husband would help me with that. Because he loves to fix things and has always been trying to figure me out. My sweet sweet, patient & loving husband Bryce.
We have been married for almost 18 years. Has it been easy? NO. Has it been a bliss? I would like to say so...but no. We have had Happy times, complete sorrowful regretting times and surviving times. I suppose this would be with anyone living with someone with ADD. I understand all marriages are a struggle if you have a ego. I understand it is a constant compromise to everything. SELFLESS is key. To say all of this now...is a MIRACLE. We both have struggled understanding each other. I thought Bryce was controlling and not understanding. He thought I was irresponsible and careless. Yes, all of it's true. So here's my little introduction to us & dealing with ADD in our marriage.
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